Women are those beings that seem alien to men.(I mean unless they are gay or very in tune with their feminine side).We , women, always complain that men do not understand us and this is often the cause for numerous frustrations(been there,done that!!).So what do women REALLY want?I humbly propose 5 guidelines.

  • Women want a bit of romance.For most men,once the woman has been conquered,it is job done and relaxation time.But women expect the romantic fire to keep burning.Women think mostly with their heart in love,for them the courting period is just the tip of the iceberg and they expect their men to love them more as time goes by.Love should increase,for women,while for men routine says it all.
  • Women want to feel that they are being listened to.Most women love to talk to their partners about their day at length and want to share their problems or worries or frustrations.But here also men react differently 1)either they do not listen at all and do not even make a show of listening or 2)they are lost in their own thoughts or 3)they propose unsollicited solutions or 4)they start talking about how hard THEIR day has been.A man needs to understand that if a woman has chosen HIM to narrate her day to,it is because she wants to tell HIM about it.She just wants him to listen to her and remember her crazy or stupid little things because she loves him and nobody else.Even if she had millions of admirers who drank her every word,it would never matter as much to her as just having that special man listen to her.
  • Women are proud of the men they are with and like to talk about them with their girlfriends,their sister,their mum,their colleagues,their dentist and the list goes on.But unlike a man,a woman will talk about her feelings,about how good about herself that man makes her feel.Women like to feel positive about being in a relationship.They do not want to feel jealous,possessive,angry or frustrated about being with someone.They want to feel the glow of love,be happy and at peace with themselves and their men.So a word of advice to men would be to treat your woman like the lady she is and give her more reasons to praise you and feel good about herself and her man.
  • Women want men to be possessive about them but not so much as to smother them.This is a very tricky feat to accomplish.A woman may complain that her man is not possessive enough but once he starts being possessive with her,she may chide him and tell him not to be ridiculous.Confused?Well most men are too.What men should know is that women love to be shown that you care enough for hem to be possessive but that at the same time,you trust her enough to be sure that she will never cheat on you or leave you.There's nothing more endearing than making a very independent man want to cling to you!!
  • Women want to hear about your feelings.What could be cuter than hearing a grown-up,confident and independent man tell you about his first day at school and how hard it had been to be separated from his mum?Or hear him tell you how much he loved his biology teacher (This is what a special someone once told me!!).Feelings are very sexy to women.Being sensitive is totally in.
So next time a man will meet one of these aliens,he might be able to understand her and even get to know her.This list does not end here.Other items can be included such as:complimenting your lady each time she does a special something for you,praising her(unless you happen to be Brad Pitt with Dalai Lama's personality,she is not with you for your looks or your wonderful personality),sharing her beliefs and likings(if she can watch football for you,can you not watch Desperate Housewives with her?),believing in her and making the most of every minute with her because being separated from someone you love is the hardest thing ever(Trust me!!I know what I am talking about!!).